Who is a mentor a coach and a counsellor? This post will help clarify the differences between these words.

These three terms are often used in the place of each other because people think they mean the same thing. Their definitions are not very different but there exists a clear difference between what a mentor, a coach and what a counsellor does. 

This clarification will also help you understand which of them you need to work with in order to guide you through your career and life. 

A mentor is a resourceful person you can depend on for general guide and advice concerning life or a career. It's a person who challenges and helps you with self-development. S/he helps you to become a better version of yourself, to grow and to stay motivated to be successful in life goals. 

A mentor is more of a generalist because he doesn't really focus on one aspect of your life but he inspires you to think and come up with your own systems and methods to work and achieve your goals. S/he guides you to grow positively and gives you constructive criticism.

S/he may ask you questions that will motivate you to discover yourself and know yourself better. S/he guides you to find new inspiration for your life or career. As well as help you discover new ways to manage your weaknesses and strengths. 

A mentor can also be role model because they are usually solicited because of their experience in life or a domain that they practice in or a domain that they seem to have a lot of knowledge about. 

A coach works just like a mentor but s/he is more specialised in one domain of your life. That's why it's possible to have many coaches like a sports coach, a voice coach, a speech coach, a love coach etc because they are very specific and qualify in a particular domain. They show you step-by-step how to obtain the results you want and they guide you along. Coaches are more task-oriented compared to Mentors.

Coaches can be very specialised and may focus only on one aspect of a particular industry. For example, in sports, we have different coaches for every sports type. There are also specialized coaches in each sports type. 

So when choosing a coach, you need to have to know the kind of results you are expecting to get from them so that you can choose well. 

A counsellor on her part is focused on problems you face and how it affects your life. They help individuals get out of their psychological and personal problems. They are also looked upon as a confidant.

Counsellors just like coaches specialise in various aspects for example; marriage, education, depression, etc.

Most of the times, coaches and counsellors require some specialized education or training to qualify for what they do. But mentors use their experience acquired to mentor their mentees. And they continue to learn from those they work with because every individual is different. Everyone has a different life, problems, past, believes, goals or dreams and needs to be guided differently.

It's possible to have people who are mentors and counsellors at the same time or mentor and coach or all three in one person. This distinction is meant to help you know that difference and understand what you really need for your personal life and career.

Did you once think that mentor, coach and counsellor were the same? Have you had the chance to work with any of them before? What's your experience?

Hi Dear,

Hope this post meets you in good health.

I've been wanting to ask you:

When are you going to start that project you've been working on? When will it be ever perfect for the world to see and benefit from that great idea of yours? Do you know that the more you keep it away from us is the more we are deprived of the benefit of your talent? Do you know that the more you keep it away from the world, the less experience you and know how-how you acquire? 

People say sharing is caring, I say sharing is growing and developing. You need to start sharing that idea you have been working on to enable it to grow and develop. It will not grow into anything while it is still on your table, in your bag or in your head. You have to stop over planning it and start doing. 

I know you may have planned from start to finish but how will you know if it will work if you haven't tried it? It doesn't matter if you did a market survey or not, just start. If you fail, you'll learn.

I want to share a story with you. When I started this blog, I had no idea what I wanted to blog about. I read a lot about types of blogs and niches but still couldn't decide on what to focus on. So I decided to just start blogging till I figure out what I really wanted. I am really happy I started this blog two years ago because I have gained in experience and the blog and I have grown. I would definitely still be a novice if I had to wait to figure it all out before starting. 

This year, I found my focus for my blog which is Women Empowerment Coaching through Personal Development and Lifestyle blogging. When I think of how excited and passionate I am about it, I also think about how much my previous experience in blogging will help me to be more efficient. 

I want to encourage you to launch whatever idea you have in mind for a while now by taking the first step. If it is a blog, create it then go find something to blog about. Is it a business? Then make your first product and show the world what you can do. Don't bother about how crazy it may look, the feedback you'll get will enable you to grow, learn and direct you on how to produce better and more refined products.

The best time to start is NOW! All the best honey.

Hope this motivation speaks to you. If it did, then please share how it has helped you and what it has opened your eyes to.

I have used many life and motivational quotes to understand and express my feelings during daily affirmations or mantras. They have worked a great deal for me. It's amazing how a set of few words say so much about you and summarize your life, personality or way of thinking. Life quotes are the best.

Today I'm going to be sharing with you those quotes for strong and ambitious women that I love so much. Here we go!

1. This quote really defines the qualities of a strong woman. A strong woman is a go-getter no matter her environment she makes effort to have a better tomorrow and to make an impact on her generation.

6. Lady Gaga is so correct in this quote. A man should not make you choose between him and your career in the first place. She said it so right.































17. We are strong like that. There are no excuses nor obstacles anymore. Life doesn't end when we have kids. In fact, having kids is the new motivation to go out and work.



18. Transform your stumbling blocks into stepping stones and reach even closer to your goals. Let nothing bring you down.

If you run a home business then it can be tough to sell your goods or services. But with the internet, it's possible to make more sales from home in Cameroon. There are many tools Cameroonians use to sell on the internet and today we will be focusing on the application WhatsApp.

WhatsApp is one of the most used applications in Cameroon. Many Cameroonians buy smartphones and Android phones first of all to have access to WhatsApp. This application is such a trend right now in cameroon and has even resulted in people referring to the technology generation as the 'WhatsApp Generation'

This application is no longer a just a communication tool between friends and family. It has also become a marketplace. A lot of home business owners are making constant sales on using WhatsApp and after observing them for a while I found out what they do on WhatsApp to make sales. Here is how they do it

Are you still not using your WhatsApp status? Even those who are not selling online are using it to share excerpts of their day, funny images and videos.

WhatsApp status lets you post pictures, notes and videos about anything you think are relevant to your contacts. You can choose who to see or not see your status on WhatsApp. 

Many home business owners use their WhatsApp status to show their products and services to their contacts. It can be a video, photo of the product or a written note explaining what your business does. 

Your status expires after 24 hours and you can see the people who saw your post. Your contacts can also respond to a post you made on your status to ask about the product you are selling. 

This method has been existing for a while now. There are groups created specifically to sell items. Before posting in a group on WhatsApp make sure that selling or marketing is allowed because not all groups have the same objective. You may have to speak to the admin or group members before posting your goods and services.

You can use your profile to advertise or showcase your products on WhatsApp. Remember that your contacts are people you know and are definitely interested in your life so when they notice you changed your profile picture, they will want to see it closer. So use this to show your products and services.

You can contact people in private to sell to them. Don't be too salesy though. It would be nice to show that you care about them genuinely too. Talking with people directly can help you sell more than talking with a group but you have to be tactful. Don't send them messages only when you want them to buy from you. Show interest in their lives. Remember WhatsApp is primarily just a communication tool and not a market. 

This is related to what I just said in the previous point. Be human. Don't post only your products and services on your status and profile pictures all the time. Show your human side. Post pictures of yourself, your day, what you are doing or eating. You may not like to show your life to others but remember that these people you advertise to on WhatsApp are people you know and the best way is to communicate and care about them. 

I know it is a real struggle out there to make a business grow and succeed especially when we don't have the means to rent a shop. We may have no choice but to start selling from home and getting our first clients can be a real struggle. 

I hope this post helps you get more sales for your business and please feel free to share your feedback with me. All the best in your business activities whether at home or in a shop.

Tell me if you use WhatsApp to sell your goods and services in your comment. What other advice will you add to this list?

I visited the zoo this weekend and it was so much fun! It wasn't my first time being there but what made the whole difference this time was that I visited it with a group of friends. 

This is probably the best place to visit for a simple one-day weekend tourism and leisure. Cameroonians visit this place mostly on the weekends especially families because of the animals and the kids' playground.  

We got there in the afternoon and our visit only started after the heavy rain stopped. I will advise you go with an umbrella during the rainy season because the umbrellas provided on the public seats couldn't protect us from the rain. The umbrella wasn't big enough to reach the seats.

After taking refuge from the rain under the shelter of one of the offices (which we were lucky to be standing near when the rain started) our self-guided visit of the zoo began.

I was excited because of two reasons; I was going to blog about my visit and secondly, there was a new animal in the zoo. 

I was so happy to see a new animal was added to the zoo. It is a beautiful parrot that reminds me so much of the cartoon Rio! 

There wasn't any detailed information provided about the bird yet. It's a very beautiful bird. So nice to see and I love the bright red, the blue and the yellow feathers it has plus its long tail. On my classification, it has become the most beautiful animal of the zoo, taking the Mandril to the second position.

Other animals in the zoo include lions, various species of monkeys, birds,  tortoise, crocodile, snakes etc.

The Mandril

The Olive Monkey

The African Parrot

The Red River Hog

The Nile Crocodile

The African Lion

These are not all of the animals of the zoo. There are many others but it wasn't a sunny day so the cages were quite dark and the pictures were not good as well.

There are also a few highlighted plant species. The pictures I took of the plants weren't bright enough as well so I'll just give some of their common names; Bubinga, Ylang, Azobe, etc. 

Facilities & Services 

The entry fee is as follows:

- 500frs for Cameroonians, 

- 1000frs for Residents,

- 2000frs for Tourists,

To take pictures:

Cameroonians;

- 1000frs for Phones,

- 2000frs for Cameras.

- These prices go up to 10000frs for residents and tourists who want to take pictures in the zoo. 

- We were at least ten of us in the group and we were allowed to use just two phones to take pictures and we paid 1000frs for that. 

- A visit with a tourist guide comes with an extra fee of 500frs. You don't necessarily need one in my opinion because the names and details of the animals are written on a board in French and English. These boards are found around the cages.


- Access to the children's playground is 1000frs per child.

- There are seats in the open air between the cages where you can sit alone or with your loved ones.



- There is also a restaurant and a swimming pool which is being renewed. Access to the pool is 1000frs per person and there is a shallow pool for kids to swim.

- Access to the taxonomy centre is 200frs per person. There are animals and their parts that have been preserved by a technique of drying them. This technique keeps the animal in the same form or shapes like it's still alive. It also preserves some parts like the bones and skulls of animals for a very long time. I didn't go in to visit the taxonomy centre this time guys so I have no pictures.

- If you come with your car you may have to park it out of the zoo. There are also toilets which the visitors can use.

* In my opinion, the place is improving a little because the restaurant is now functioning, the toilets have been renewed, the swimming pool is also going operational as well. The last time I visited before now all these facilities were not working and all that there was to it was only the animals.

There has also been some repainting of the walls and now both of the entrances are functioning as opposed to before when people were allowed to use just the main entrance. This was usually annoying because the main entrance is far from the main road and most public transporters will not go inside except you pay them extra. 

The Ambiance

The environment is calm and natural. It's fun to watch the kids play and to see families parents bond with their kids on the playground. The monkeys are fun to watch too. 

The baby monkeys sometimes come out of their cages and it's interesting to look at them closer. They even follow people around which scares some visitors.

This Monkey had us running when it suddenly jumped on this board we were reading.

My recommendations if you want to visit The Mvog-Betsi Zoo:

- Like I said before, take an umbrella if you are visiting in the rainy season. The weather can suddenly change in Yaoundé.

- Wear long trousers and shirts to avoid mosquitoes and itches from the grass around some of the cages. 

- It's a fun outing for a group. Like I mentioned this is my third or fourth time being there but it's my first time being there in a group and it was so much fun. It's easy to organise and really affordable.

- There's a restaurant but you can take your own food along. Like we did. We had our own snacks prepared that we brought along. 

- Apparently, the zoo has to be completely rehabilitated by 2019. I guess this is against the 2019 African Nation's Cup to be organised in Cameroon. I hope that after this the place will be well maintained and that we will not have to wait to host another sports competition to renew it.

I hope to visit again and do another review after the renovation is done. While waiting for that I'll say it's still an interesting place to visit.

If you are in Yaoundé and you want to escape the urban life for a moment or you want to get in touch with nature without travelling to a far place then you should visit The Mvog-Betsi Zoo. It's the perfect place for family, lovers and friends to spend quality time together.

My favourite definition for a Go-Getter Girl is this:

Being a Go-Getter is synonymous with being ambitious. It's intriguing how I feel so empowered when I'm referred to as a Go-Getter Girl. Go-Getter comes with a plus which is the ability to go get what you want and not wait for it to come to you. Being a Go-Getter makes me feel like I have been given wings to fly to anywhere I choose and get whatever I want.

I am a lover of freedom, physically and mentally. I love to feel that I can do anything, think of anything, dream and achieve anything. When I feel restricted, I find it hard to be creative and I can't be myself. 

This contributes to making me unique. I can have a dream and work towards achieving it because I know that I am free to do so. 

Everything I have now was once only a dream. This blog once existed only in my head. The progress I have made as a blogger was once a dream and I had to be a Go-Getter to take it to this level. 

Go-Getters would try all the things they dream of doing. There are so many things I have tried because I imagined them. I failed in some and succeeded in some. I also came to realise that I love some things more than others. 

This has given me even more certainty in what I'm doing now and where I'm going in life. I have no regrets or wishes of 'what if I had done this or that' because I tried doing the things I had only once dreamt of.

From good to bad, everything I tried has taught me a different lesson and has made me grow. Every experience has contributed to making me the better person that I am now.

Being a Go-Getter makes you want to step out and experience all kinds of things. Even if you are still finding your path in life, still be a Go-Getter. It will help you discover your true self and set you on the right track in life.

Go-Getter Girls find the road to success, eventually. It takes a lot of work and persistence but surely you will get to the road to success. 

Anybody can become a Go-Getter, anyone! All it takes is to know who you are, know what you want and decide to achieve it. 

I want to encourage all the ambitious girls who are working hard to make their dreams a reality. You are not alone. Keep working because tomorrow, your story will be an inspiration to other young girls who look up to you.

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There are lots of contradicting information out there about pursuing your dreams. But I am a great supporter of following your dreams. I just can't imagine a world without dreamers. 

There will be no innovation and if there is any it will be by accident. Who wants to live in a world like that? Definitely, not me. To live in a world where there are no people who are passionate about something can be depressing. 

We all should have dreams. We have to do what we love to do. Live the life we want to live. What are your dreams? What is your dream life?

Great achievements start with a dream, an image or thought that kept someone awake all night. Then they become goals and later achievements. 

The story of Joseph in the bible is a good example of a dreamer who became a high achiever. But is it enough to just dream? Or only imagine the things we want to achieve in life? In this post, I will show you how to make your dreams become a reality.

1. First of all Dream (Have a vision)

To achieve a dream you have to have a dream. You need to have a vision of what you want for your life. A vision a general image of what you want to achieve.

How do you see yourself living in the next 5 or 10 years to come? What do want to invest your time, money and energy in? What lifestyle do you want to live?

Here are some questions you should answer while having your vision.

2. Find a role model(s) of your dream life

Who are those in the world or around you who are already doing what you dream of doing, living the way you want to live?

Are there people who are already living the life you dream of having? Is there someone you know who has your dream job or your dream career?

Find those people and learn from them how they did it. Read their life stories to know how they became who they are. Now, this doesn't mean that you should copy their lives but just get the lessons they share about their lives and use their story as a guide to finding your own path.

3. Find out what you need to do to realize this dream

Finding a role model is just one step to achieving your dreams. But sometimes there could be no role model in the field you want to go into. While finding one, do a lot of research concerning what you want to do.

I will strongly recommend the internet because it gives you a wide variety of (false and correct) information so be careful. Information on the internet is frequently updated so you will have access to current information in your field.

Also talking to a mentor and learning from your role model(s) is highly recommended as mentioned earlier.

Here are some key questions to ask yourself at this stage: What skills do I need to achieve my dream? Do I have the said skills? How can I get/work on this skill to help me achieve my dream?

Read books and blogs to find out how to become who you want to be. Also, attend seminars and workshops related to what you need to know.

4. Set your Goals

Decide how and when to start taking action to achieve your dreams.  Don't wait to be perfectly equipped to start working towards your vision.

Make a plan. Here are some key questions to answer: What skills am I lacking and what resources do I already have? How do I use what I have to start achieving my goal now? 

Break your major goals into smaller ones and make plans to achieve them. Remember that every little action takes you closer to your main goal. Give yourself a time frame to realize your goals.

5. Take Action on your goals: Put the knowledge you acquired to use

This is the most important part. It's not enough to make plans. Plans won't realise themselves. Put all the knowledge you got to use.

Start doing the things you are meant to do in order to achieve your dream. Do some self-development, acquire the skills needed to achieve your dream and practice to make progress.

Take action towards your goals such as; taking an online course or training, start working with your mentor, start working on your personal brand, start investing in that business idea, etc.

6. Evaluate your efforts

Use your time frame to evaluate how close you are to your goal.

Most importantly don't give up! There will be challenges but don't let it discourage you. You may experience delays and lose confidence when you don't meet up with deadlines but just take a break, remember why you are doing this (your vision) and keep going towards it.

Hope this motivates you today. So what are the challenges you face with following your dreams? Let's discuss them and help out.

My makeup routine is basically powder, lipstick & gloss. Very easy compared to most makeup routines today. Some days I go out with a bare face; that is with absolutely no makeup. That's quite normal to me these days.

I wore more makeup while in secondary school than I do now. My use of makeup has decreased over the years. Most times I enjoy going out without makeup. 

When I started using makeup, like my friends I used brown powder or 'pancake' as most guys called it then. It made my face appear smooth and spotless. Yeah, it covered the imperfections on my face. I also enjoyed shaving my brows and making my lips stand out by colouring them with an eye pencil and I used a lot of lip gloss because I wanted my lips to be really shiny. 

Then one day I bought a new brown powder and didn't use much of it. At first, I thought it was because it didn't really match my skin colour so that's why I didn't use it quite often. But later I realised that I was no longer a fan of it. And from then to today, I have stopped using other makeup and even stopped shaving my eyebrows. 

Makeup has evolved so much and is working wonders in the lives of many women but I am still not inspired to use layers of makeup to look beautiful. I think I should tell you why.

I love skin care and I love to show my beautiful skin. I try to get a beautiful skin so that I can show it and not cover it. So I prefer to invest in having good skin than invest in makeup to cover it up.

If you have a clear and smooth face then you don't need to make up that much.

I think this is one of the major reasons I don't wear heavy makeup. I wouldn't want to stain my clothes and bedding with makeup. 

I love to be free to touch my face, hug people and lay down whenever and however I want to without the fear of leaving stains on them. I also sweat a lot so wiping my face will be a challenge for me.

Sometimes I wonder how these ladies who use foundations manage to keep their makeup intact. The few times I tried that, I ended up wiping my face before realizing that I had some foundation on.

There's something I do when I look at a girl with well-done makeup. I always try to imagine her real face. I'm always trying to find the person behind that makeup. 

No offence ladies but this is my personal opinion. In as much as I admire slay makeup, I feel sometimes that wearing heavy makeup is fooling people about who you really are. 

Most times the person in makeup is very different from the person without makeup and it's hard to reconcile the two.

I personally don't want to project an image which is not true or real to others so I prefer not to use too much makeup.

My aim when I makeup is to enhance my features without going too far from what I really look like.

But like I said, all that I said in this post is totally my opinion. I don't have a problem with slaying heavy makeup. I am just sharing my point of view concerning the wearing of makeup.

So what is your own makeup story? Do you wear makeup? What do you think about heavy makeup?

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I had an experience today. I read a phrase yesterday which reminded me that 'God already made me in the best version of myself' and it instantly changed my way of thinking about myself. I found this phrase on this Instagram post here.

I'm all about self-improvement and striving to be better. But I do get lost trying to improve myself. This is because I want to be more lovable by others. Meaning that I'm focusing on improving myself for others. This is wrong! It has only made me the worse self-critic ever!


This morning I found myself judging my abilities to do things and not feeling good enough because I was thinking of what people will say and how they will judge me. So I began to judge myself even before they did. I was so hard on myself that I even felt hurt. Then I remembered the words I read yesterday. So I looked myself in the mirror and repeatedly said; 

To look yourself in the eye and tell yourself things you can't believe is really challenging. But you need to try it because it's uplifting. I feel so good now and I know this is not the end of my self-critic mind. But I believe that this is a good start to counter it. 

We need to spend time to build a relationship with ourselves as individuals. We never get the time to talk positivity into our own lives. We never decide to spend time looking at ourselves in the mirror to admire our physical beauty nor do we reflect on the times we let our inner beauty shine. 

Give yourself some credit. Congratulate yourself! Look at yourself in the eye and truly say "I love you". All the praises and encouragement we give to others, we need to hear it from ourselves too when we succeed. But we rather tear ourselves apart by auto criticizing and pointing out where we went wrong rather than what we did right. 

Always ask yourself this when you feel that you've messed up; 

I bet if your loved one messed up you will rather correct them with love. You will instead see the things they did right than wrong. And you will remind them that they did well and that life isn't perfect.

Then why do you want to kill yourself when you get it wrong. Remember that God already made you in the best version of yourself even with your mistakes and shortcomings. Even if people say that you are too emotional, you are already the best version of yourself. Even if everyone says that you are too afraid and can't do anything without fear, still know that you are already the best version of yourself. 

You are already at your best, whatever improvements you make on yourself are meant to take you to a higher level because you are already the best of you. 

Stop criticizing who you are. You have enough critics already out there. Don't join them. You don't deserve that. You are making enough effort and deserve to be encouraged. 

I hope these words encourage you and make you understand how unique you are and how much the world is lucky to have you in it.

This was meant to be the caption of an Instagram post but the words just kept dropping in my mind and I kept writing them till I had no more characters left. So I made it a blog post instead. 

By the way, I think it will reach more people here than on Instagram.

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Easy to make yet delicious. 'Turning Coco' is one of those meals we often eat at grandma's because she cooks it best. This recipe I'm sharing with you today is a grandma's recipe for Cocoyam porridge. It needs the simplest ingredients but tastes amazing! Let's get into the recipe.

- Washed bitter leaves (Ndolé). If you bought them already washed, then rinse it again at home before cooking.