Have you had a  dream and you believe in it so hard but those around you don't? Tell me how frustrating that is.



It affects you to the extent of losing faith in your dream. When your relatives and friends all think you are crazy for pursuing the path that you are taking or when society thinks 'this is what a real job or career looks like' then it may begin to affect how you feel about your dream.


I've wanted to abandon blogging several times ever since I started. I sometimes feel discouraged or just fed up because the growth is not enough or not up to the amount of work or energy put into it.

At this point, all the fears that other people expressed concerning my blogging career start to become my reality.

I begin to think to myself that they are right after all. I can't make a living out of blogging. But then I wonder how Linda Ikeji made millions from blogging.

She is my role model in the blogging domain. In my most crazy moments, I imagine myself as the next Linda Ikeji of Africa. I'm not even shy to share this. Strange.

Anyway, that's just to let you know how far I want to go as a blogger. I know every blogger will love that too.

Even with success as evident as hers in the blogging world, I still sometimes feel like I'm doing wrong by blogging. It's like I am wasting my time on this path that I have chosen. That one day I will regret this because it won't work out. And it might just be too late.

I sometimes feel like blogging is not a real job. 

The typical employee or entrepreneur wakes up every morning and goes to work. He/she returns home after putting long hours of work and everyone sees that he or she is working. Everyone understands what he/she does or at least can understand when explained to them.

But when it comes to blogging, it doesn't happen like that. You work from home most of the time and no one sees you leave your house to work or any place like that every day. Probably no even sees you working. No one even understands why you should be paid for sitting down to write articles all day. In fact, you are seen as a lazy youth or adult who wants to make easy money or use people's clicks to become rich.

It is tough to fight this mindset every day as a blogger and this makes me feel that I need a real job. One where everyone can see me working and applaud my efforts.

But I hate working for people. And I love blogging. I'll rather be working for my own dream than to work for someone else's.

What makes matters worse is that there is no income coming yet from blogging. And that's when everyone is right to ask you why you are still blogging. Some will bluntly tell you to go and get a real job. After all, blogging is not working out.

This post is not meant to show how difficult and time-consuming blogging is nor it is meant to justify how much blogging is a job. I just want to share my experience.

There are other career paths which suffer the same thing like art, comedy, YouTubing and the entertainment industry in general where your passion is never considered a job until you 'blow' or you have made it or received your first paycheck.

And honestly, they are right to think so because if it is a job then you have to be paid for it. So where is the money?

Will-I-Am of the former group Black Eyes Peas said during an interview that he used to tell people when he just started out in music that he was an artist who hasn't been paid yet and it was just a matter of time.

I am putting up the same attitude with my career but I must say it's hard. It's hard to not ask yourself if I am doing the right thing because there is no paycheck yet. It's not all about the paycheck. I just also want to make a living from my passion.

I even feel like it may never come. But I'm staying positive. Others have been successful with blogging and so will I. It's a matter of time.

The essential thing is to stay positive and work hard while dealing with the feeling that you are 'not doing anything for a living' meanwhile you are really working your a** off something you love.

I've been a bit negligent beauty wise and to get back on track I decided to try the Papaya Face and Body Cleanser.

My test results

It is necessary to clean your face before using the product for better results. 

The changes on my face after I used the product were amazing. 

I didn't use it with any other cleanser or beauty product because I wanted to see how well it works. 

For precaution, avoid it touching your hair. You will have a hard time taking it out.

It's my first time using this particular relaxer. I used it to relax my hair at home.

This may be a very sensitive post to some people but I wouldn't ask you to abstain from reading it because it is important for everyone to talk about domestic violence. Yensi Helen hasn't stopped reminding me on my Facebook timeline that October is Domestic Violence Month. lol.

Her last post on his issue got me in my feelings and made me reflect on a few things concerning domestic violence.


I believe that the more women know about domestic violence, the easier and faster it shall be eradicated (I will limit this talk to women because I can't talk for men, sorry) That's why I think Helen is doing such a good job. Her campaigns are very educative on issues like these. And this is very important because some of us could be going through domestic violence without knowing. You may know someone going through it and but are unable to identify that it is domestic violence.

I think the identification of a problem is very important. How do we know we have a problem if we do not even know that what we are going through is not normal?




Some women think/believe that violence is normal. That it is okay. That it is acceptable. Most of them interpret violence to mean love, care and guidance.

I wouldn't blame them. We don't educate girls to know the difference between love and violence. Between care and control. Or between guidance and oppression.

A girl who had very severely strict parents later interprets that a man who controls her every move/action and corrects her with severe discipline is in love with her, wants the best for her or has her interest at heart.

Don't be surprised when a victim of domestic violence always has an excuse for her violent partner... 'I was the one who made him angry', 'He only wants me to behave better', 'He was only correcting me'...

The excuses are always endless, but they have one thing in common; the victim blames themselves for the act of violence done to them by their partner.

But how do women get to this point? Most of us may ask this question. How does a friend, sister, cousin, aunt, mother or neighbour which we used to know to be confident and happy get to this devastating state?

It didn't happen in a day. It's a process.

That's why they say that it can happen to anybody. Because any woman may wake up one day and realise that that is now her reality. Questions like 'How did I get here? How did this happen? When did it start? When did he change?' may come to her mind.

When did he change?

My dear woman, your oppressor has always been like that. He knows exactly how to lure you and control you till he dominates you. He used his words to hurt you, make you think bad of yourself and to make you believe that you are nothing without him. Then he becomes your lord, your master and you serve him to please him, to make him happy because it's only when he is happy that you can be happy. When he is sad, angry or disappointed, you feel the wrath of his emotions because he uses your destitute to feel good and better about himself.

Dear girl, you need a man who appreciates you for who you are. If he came to you it's because he saw some good in you so there should be something positive about you that he can tell you every day. Men who are sensitive to only negative things could become oppressors because they use that to destroy your confidence, your value and the way you see yourself so that they can control you better.

A man should appreciate you because you are his gift and not his burden. If he makes you feel like he is doing you a favour by being with you then you shouldn't be with him. The bible says that 'He that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from God'. Women are a gift from God to men and God doesn't give bad gifts to his people. If he treats you or sees you as a burden then leave him and find the man that will see your value and appreciate it.

If a relationship makes you feel empty and not worthy of love or anything good in life then you are not in the right place. Please leave!

Any man can express his anger without using hurtful words on you but some men will rather insult you to express their anger. That is not right!

For example, you mistakenly break your partner's computer while using it and he says to you in anger:
- 'Why did you touch it? Now look at what you've done! How am I supposed to work now that my computer is bad? I'm not happy about this!'

Or says:

- 'Why did you even touch it, idiot! That's how you are! All you do is spoil my things. Can you afford it? You don't contribute anything in this house, you only make me spend my money. You are really good for nothing. Stupid woman! Nothing good can come out of you. Pray that it works again or you will regret this!'





Which one sounds intimidating and insulting? In one scenario someone is expressing his frustration and anger which we can understand while the other person is expressing his anger by talking down on someone.

Anyone can make their point clear without insulting or hurting the other. And when they hurt the other person, they should be able to realize it and make efforts to stop hurting them.

No one has the right to physically or mentally harass you even if they are are in a relationship with you, paid your bride price or claim they want to correct you.

Don't accept your partner to talk down on you, insult you or embarrass you. Don't let him use hurtful words on you because it begins with words, and then we don't know how we got here.

Let's discuss the signs of domestic violence with our young girls so that they can avoid violent relationships. Parents need to make the difference clear between parental discipline and love received from a partner. Most parents discipline their children because they love them and want them to be of best behaviour so that can have a better life or bright future. But this should be clarified as they grow up so that they don't turn to believe that when someone disciplines you like your parents did it means that they love you and want the best for you.

My philosophy has always been that if someone isn't exactly what you want then let them go rather than trying to punish or change them.

You don't discipline or punish someone in a relationship. You make demands which may be accepted or refused, you give advice which may be taken or rejected. You don't discipline or punish someone because they won't do what you want them to do or act the way you want.

If they are not the way you want simply let them go and move on.

If you are in a relationship with a man who uses harsh words on you then you need to be careful because that's where it begins. If you meet a man today and he already makes an attempt to hit you, then it's easy to run away from him because you only just met him.

But most times the victim is first of all abused by words before physical violence comes in. That's why you should not let men talk down on you while in a relationship. It begins with a few rude words, then a rain of insults and then constant oppression and violence.

Don't 'manage' a bad relationship or a man because you are hoping that he will marry you. Don't think you can change a man who insults, oppresses and beats you! DON'T because you can't change him.

Let's make it our responsibility to educate our girl children to be able to differentiate between love and violence. And also educate our boys on how to love a woman right, how to respect her and protect her. Here are all my thoughts on domestic violence. I shared more in a video which you can click to watch below.

Thanks for taking the time to read and please leave a comment if you feel inspired to add your voice to this cause.

Here is a video I made on what makes women vulnerable or exposed to domestic violence.

There are a few blogging advice we see a lot and honestly, it's easy to believe. But in reality, the only thing it does is kill your blogging spirit and confidence.

I remember when I just started blogging and felt so motivated until I came across people and fellow bloggers who told me these three things that really killed my motivation and drive. I limited myself because of certain tips I read from other bloggers.

Here they are:

1. Buy a domain name.
2. Have a niche.
3. Blog for your readers.

I realized that what is necessary for you to have a successful blog is blog traffic. And getting a domain name, having a niche or blogging for your readers doesn't bring lots of traffic to your blog automatically.

People who buy a domain name still struggle to bring traffic to their blogs everyday. Those who have a niche don't automatically appear on search engines either. We all seek attention in the same ways.

If you want to start a blog, my advice is to start with a free domain like Blogger or WordPress to see if you really like blogging. Many people buy domain names only to realize later that blogging is not for them. While some of us let this advice make us feel less of bloggers for such a long time.

The only thing that changes is the appearance of the name of the blog. The content and all the rest remains the same unless you decide to change it as well. Not all blogs with domain names are successful. And there are bloggers on free platforms who are very professional and making money from their blogs.

So if you have the talent of blogging, don't limit yourself or feel you are not a professional blogger because you don't have a domain name (yet). Do it like you had one already.




When it comes to finding a niche and blogging for your readers, I will say that there are no rules. There are lots of nicheless blogs which are successful.

On the other hand, if a blogger doesn't like the content s/he is putting out there then that blog may not know progress.

How you want to blog s totally up to you. Try your idea and make it work! the world needs innovation, diversity and people who make a difference in every aspect including blogging. people are looking for fresh content.

All beauty blogs have the same pattern, content and style. How different will your own beauty blog be? Won't you run out of content soon? Won't your readers get bored?

But if you decide to be yourself on your blog. And add a little of life, and other things related (or unrelated) to your topic you may be the beauty blogger with a difference. You will be easily recognized by your readers because of that extra knowledge you bring to the table.

If you want to blog about your life then go ahead. Those who are interested in reading will follow. If you make it interesting and fun your readers will come back for more.

Don't let these three tips make you not to feel good enough and slow down your blogging journey. Keep getting better at what you do and let your intuition and experience direct your blogging. You may start with a nicheless blog but soon realise that you are actually interested in just one niche. That's alright. But just give yourself time to make the transition so that you know what works for you. Just like you may start blogging on a free domain to be certain you love blogging before you buy a domain name.

Also, you should blog about the topics that you love to talk about. It is important to blog for your readers as well but you need to love your content to give them the best. You will suck at blogging on a topic you don't love and even if that's the content readers want to see they won't be coming back to see the bad content you wrote for them.

You can start and build a good blogging career with what you have; your computer/phone, internet and your content on a free domain till you feel ripe to get one. Start with the topics you love and progress from there. Linda Ikeji built a fortune from a free domain blog on Blogger before she ever bought a domain name. Anything is possible in the blogosphere if you dare to make the difference. Don't limit yourself.

Soybeans have never been anywhere near my favourite. To be honest with you the smell still disturbs me as an adult.

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Maybe I still do watch television but not as much as I used to. At first, I used to think that it is because I am now an adult and adult life has taken the most of my interest in television watching. But even when do have the time, I would rather just watch videos on my phone or read funny tweets.


It's not a surprise to see that the internet is the new television these days; the reason why all your favourite shows on TV is moving to the internet. IROKO TV and the new Linda Ikeji TV are simply not making matters any better for both local and international TV stations. There are other online streaming apps that are taking a lot of people's attention from television.

Television has moved to the internet. Are you following? Or are you still sitting in front of your TV screen waiting?

So Is Tv Dying?

Yes in my opinion. I can count the number of times that I watch TV in a week. Moreover, I scroll my phone most of the times looking for new pictures, videos and blogs as I watch. Only shows that I really like get all my full attention.



TV channels have a lot to do to maintain their audiences. Shows that used to air only once a week or once a month are now shown many times a day just to keep their audience glued.

I read a Twitter thread from BBC which opened my eyes to realize that it is possible to create a television report experience on social media. I couldn't think that such a report could be created using Twitter. As I read tweet after tweet, I could put the story together and it seemed so much like I was watching the report on TV. I was really amazed at this creativity.

Television has moved to the Internet but can the Internet move to Television? 

I know it sounds funny to ask. lol

Some TV channels have programs focused on the internet. Some of them show funny videos and skits that were posted on the internet.




It's a real battle between both camps of television and the internet. But which one do you prefer and why?

As for me, I will go with the internet. I still watch television but I prefer the internet. The only thing the internet lacks is the organisation of shows and ideas as television. Everything is available at the same time on the internet and it can be confusing to know where to start.

Appart from that we are good.

I wonder how the future will turn out for these two. On who's side will technology advancement be the most favourable? It's exciting to see all these changes take place. At a certain period, all that people had access to was black and white TV images with very much selected programs to watch.

But these days there are lots of shows and ways to inform and entertain people on the internet. What a time to be alive!